So, a couple of days ago (maybe longer, because remember? I was in a sickness coma?) I saw this image on facebook:
And I, being a naturally positive person, really liked it. As a self-employed person it REALLY spoke to me. Because you know, when you’re the boss, it’s a lot easier to say “I’m not coming in today,” because what are the repercussions? Exactly. In the short term, there are few. In the long term, however… well, we’re not talking about my business, are we?
So anyway, I shared the pic to my page, and a friend responded to it saying “And if your sabotaging your work, maybe the work is something you shouldn’t be doing.”
Now, I’m doing something different with my work life (Direct Sales and Network Marketing are absolutely not the same as a regulated, 9-5 job). So I play by a different set of rules (mostly a self-directed, motivated kind). This was an interesting statement though, so I asked him if he could expand his thought for me. And this is what he said next: “You’re doing something you don’t want to do but believe you have to do it, or everyone says you have to do it but subconsciously you either disagree or want to do something else so you do things that keep you from completing the task.”
I can see what he’s saying. And sure – to some extent I agree.
I can’t agree entirely with his point though. Here’s why: I believe that as human beings, we are meant to grow and evolve and develop into more than we are. This is a constant thing, that we should be experiencing throughout our lives. Many people agree with me; I know this because there’s an adage that says, “You learn something new every day.” And really, if you are actually learning something new, changing your perspective on the world – be it everso slight a shift – and ultimately doing something different, you will be uncomfortable.
We are programed to be comfortable. Entire industries are built around the idea that comfort is the ultimate goal in our lives. (Lay-Z Boy, anyone?) Marketing campaigns are developed to play to our most basic instincts – safety, which in and of itself is a form of comfort – so that we spend our lives scrimping and saving so that we aren’t left eating cat food and living in a shopping cart in our “golden years”. If you ask a person in their mid-30’s what they really want out of life, or what it would mean to them to be financially free, most of them will tell you some variation of, “Enough to meet all of my obligations and have a little left over. I just want to be comfortable.” Because of this quest for “comfort”, when we feel the opposite of that – uncomfortable – our gut instinct is to stop what we’re doing, and revert to the behaviours or positions that made us feel comfortable. To sabotage our forward momentum.
The problem with this is that, if you’re not uncomfortable, you are not growing. You are not challenging yourself to be the best that you can be in the moment you are in. Which you know, is fine if you don’t want anything more than you all ready have. I am not one of those people though. I have a lot that I am grateful for, and I have great ambition for even more than I have right now. And we all know that if we want something other than what we have, we have to do what we are not currently doing.
Which brings me back to the image above. If we stopped spending time, thinking up reasons for why we can’t or shouldn’t do what we are planning and just simply DO IT, we would accomplish so much. I want to leave you with this thought that I heard from a training I was listening to recently. The speaker said, “Human beings are the only thing in nature that does not fully manifest itself into all it was created to be.” Well, I am here, reaching, stretching and pushing to grow to my fullest, to realize my potential. Won’t you join me?